Human nature is betrayal in some form. It’s ugly, but it’s also the very reason why people essentially choose a compatible, lifelong partner. This coveted union of “oh-so-holy” matrimony meets two basic human needs in one: sex and emotional stability. When combined, these emotions synthesize love. Someone can finally trust someone else. I get it.
However, the idea of killing two birds with one stone forces the independent thinker to become stoic toward love.
Society holds us to these standards. If you seek sex and emotional stability from one monogamous partner, you’re justified. But if you seek them separately, you aren’t. Simultaneously, you can be called a whore and a tease regardless of your gender. It’s like the mathematical formula for probability and statistics.
In relationships, people try to minimize costs, maximize rewards, and ensure equity. Essentially, economic principles apply to relationships: it’s a cost-benefit analysis. Furthermore, socially constructed and learned rules guide communication between partners. Uncertainty motivates communication and certainty reduces the motivation to communicate.
Therefore, love is more often cockamamie bullshit than unending bliss. Typically, a woman confuses affection with neediness or the desire to transform her partner while a man is on an emotional rollercoaster of giving love and then seeking independence. He retracts, she pursues, he comes back, she punishes him.
In addition to these games, romantic partners communicate how they see us and we filter their impressions into our own self-image. Because of this, their significance is imprinted on our personal experiences and the phenomena of self-esteem is constructed. Can we every truly get rid of an ex?
The point of view that humans are natural storytellers offers more proof that love is merely perception. Reality is simply material, external to the human mind and the same for everyone, when presented by a skilled storyteller.
Religion, family opinions, political justifications and societal implications cloud our perspectives and disable us from making the choices we need to pursue our own independence. Therefore, we mustn’t gain ideas from the world around us. Instead, we should pay special attention to the theories that revive our consciousness and shape our own visions of reality.
Maybe then will we realize that love and lust really aren’t so important.
-Swanky
People are often taken advantage of by others. So, to say, “human nature is betrayal in some form,” is true to a certain extent. “In relationships, people try to minimize costs, maximize rewards, and ensure equity,” because everyone, stereotypically, has an Ethical Egoistic mind set. This “Cost-Benefit analysis” depicts the idea that the moral obligation of each individual is to perform only those acts that are profitable to him or herself.
ReplyDeleteThe idea that love is so valueless and shallow, that sex and trust are the only two human needs coveted to create a relationship is saddening. Are all relationships so much alike, that people share the same ethical values and mind set, of how many birds can I kill with 1 stone? If this is true, our ultimate reality is screwed. How can we ever find a balance in our spirit if we only focus on the physical realm of giving to receive?
When the sole standard of right and wrong is determined by “economic principles,” other people are seen as a means to achieve our own interests. Thus, ethical egoism depersonalizes the inherent value of people. Egoism’s worldview makes human nature the yardstick by which everything is measured. Our life becomes the ultimate reality and, when pursued rationally, our interests are infallible. Our own conformed perverted minds are what we gauge our values towards.
Is that something to strive towards?
-Conniving
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